tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764506766343254616.post7116408803001711799..comments2024-03-26T14:20:38.103-04:00Comments on The Thought Criminal: Hate Mail - "your obsession with porn"Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764506766343254616.post-52989709554831854592017-08-03T21:21:01.965-04:002017-08-03T21:21:01.965-04:00A coworker used to work as a stripper. She told m...A coworker used to work as a stripper. She told me drug use is prevalent in that profession, and the dancers who don't use are the exceptions, and she was no exception. She'd often shoot heroin and then have to do coke or meth to counter the lethargy the opium created.<br /><br />When I asked her if that wasn't a red flag, she told me that it is, but only in retrospect. She found abstinence was either than moderation, and was aware that she could slip back into addiction at any time. So here's hoping she's still clean. <br /><br />But she told me so long as she kept the club out of potential legal trouble, no one in her workplace cared how strung out she was when she came in.Liam Pravardehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02939183220563675989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764506766343254616.post-80844130254802066282017-08-02T20:51:27.321-04:002017-08-02T20:51:27.321-04:00I think you two need to rent a hotel room and enjo...I think you two need to rent a hotel room and enjoy the gay porn that you both seem to know a lot about. You can keep your morality to yourselves thank you. If you want to ban porn for it's harm on the world then I want to ban religion for it's harm on the world as well. For every horror story you want to conjure up about pornography I will match it with a horror story about religious repression. Nice try though with the moral superiority. It must really get lonely up there in Maine, huh?General Zodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00899193868037299236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764506766343254616.post-1958581981431479172017-08-02T14:05:43.663-04:002017-08-02T14:05:43.663-04:00I used to work with a young lady who had worked as...I used to work with a young lady who had worked as a dancer. Not ballet. She told me (so this is thoroughly her perspective) that dancers who didn't use drugs were the exception. And she was not an exception. She explained she'd shoot heroin (for the high) and then either do coke or meth to work up the energy to work, as the opium made her lethargic. Her bosses and supervisors only cared about the addictions of the dancers when it had the potential to interfere with business.<br /><br />When I asked her if that wasn't a red flag, she said that now that she's clean, yes, but then, no.Liam Pravardehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02939183220563675989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764506766343254616.post-84987022445655238142017-08-02T12:57:30.998-04:002017-08-02T12:57:30.998-04:00Definitely class-based, in the same way Julian Fel...Definitely class-based, in the same way Julian Fellowes, a member of aristocracy, would imagine happy servants gladly bathing and clothing their employers for the privilege of living in a grand house and serving such nice people.<br /><br />Utter bollocks, of course. Service was a life of drudgery. It was instructive seeing the show about Highclere Castle and the family who lives there now. The butler and the cook hardly considered themselves members of the family, and certainly didn't count themselves lucky to work for such noble people as the son of the last owner.<br /><br />"Service" of any kind always looks better when we imagine we are the ones being served, and none of the servants are related, or even that well known, to us; except as servants, of course. Besides, didn't they choose a life of service? Doesn't that absolve us of all responsibility?Rmjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811456254443706479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764506766343254616.post-67744502461500382952017-08-02T12:36:14.853-04:002017-08-02T12:36:14.853-04:00I think the idea that someone who has sex for mone...I think the idea that someone who has sex for money, chosen at the direction of someone else is not prostitution because it is filmed is ridiculous. <br /><br />The idea that prostitution is some kind of "career" or a "job" or sex "work" is something invented by people who work for pimps or pimps, themselves. I'm low enough on the economic scale that I have one not that extended family member who developed a drug addiction and went from working in an "adult" bookstore to prostitution. I saw her recently for the first time in about seven years, not long ago. She just turned 30 and looks like she's well into her fifties. Even after having been clean for about three years. It is absolutely heartbreaking, one of the hardest things I've ever witnessed. I assume that those who take the attitude you describe don't imagine their loved ones really ever becoming involved with sexual servitude, so largely a class, race issue of privilege and a privileged manner of thinking. The Thought Criminalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01381376556757084468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764506766343254616.post-27650744021321879802017-08-02T11:18:59.973-04:002017-08-02T11:18:59.973-04:00Defending porn is like defending prostitution: on...Defending porn is like defending prostitution: one has to imagine the "hooker with the heart of gold" or the "high class call girl" who "enjoys her work," and ignore the myriad women and girls in sex trafficking or desperate simply to make money. I had a client in a child custody case who, though not a prostitute, had to work in "adult entertainment" (how we separate the men from the boys; whether they can enter a place where women are nude on stage) because she had no marketable skills and little education. It wasn't her choice, it wasn't "high class," She earned money by showing strangers her tits. There was nothing "ennobling" about it, and she was exploited by the club that paid her to do it<br /><br />We tell ourselves fairy stories about prostitutes and porn stars, ignoring the fact most of them are degrading themselves for the pleasures of others. We don't even treat them like people, we treat them like objects. But it's okay, they aren't objects because of race or creed or gender; only because they need the work. But we tell ourselves they "choose," and therefore it's perfectly okay.Rmjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811456254443706479noreply@blogger.com